To All The Girls Who Thought of Giving up on Real And Beautiful Love

17 Nov

To all the girls who thought of giving up on REAL & beautiful love,

I’ve been there. I thought that the vision I had of love that was magical, beautiful, and unconditional was but a product of all the fairy-tales we have been made to watch as little dainty girls.

At this age, a lil more grown-up, I have seen love through different stages. Falling in love. Loving. Staying in love. Fighting to keep it. Struggling. And failing, yes failing. After the last relationship I had, I seriously told myself that maybe love is but a decision. I tried to convince myself that that feeling that I was waiting for, the “you just know” feeling was just another myth…an illusion, a far-fetched idea.

I pretty much almost successfully convinced myself to believe in that absurd idea. I reached a point where I altered my standards and my expectations here and there to be able to find love and keep love.

But the grown-up me was wrong and the little girl version of me was right all along.

There will be a love so strong that will be able to make you forget about all the things that made you believe in its non-existence. A love so undeniable, it just takes over and you’re just sure it’s where you need to be at that very moment.

There is a guy who will look you in the eye when you share your innermost thoughts. Someone who will listen to the bad, alongside the good, parts of your story and will still find you beautiful. There is a guy who will pay attention to what makes your heart skip a beat as if it were his own heart he’s keeping an eye on. There is a guy out there who takes note of the scars and wounds this life has left on you, and carefully kisses them in hopes of making them slowly fade away, or at least to lessen the pain they have left on your soul. There is a guy out there who knows what your heart says, even if you’re too afraid to admit it. A guy who’s patient enough to wait for you to open up again as he knows what your fear is made of and he’s certain of what his love is capable of. There is a guy who will be able to sprinkle a bit of magic to every simple thing you do in life. Watching a movie becomes a hundred times more touching. Cuddling at night suddenly gives you the peace you’ve run after in thousands of places and in numerous ways. Talking becomes as entertaining as having 10 or more people around even if it’s just really you and him across each other. There is a guy out there who will make you feel like you never have to question whether he wants you or not…the way he seeks time with you, the way he treats you…Well, it will just make your heart swell with love and certainty. There is a guy out there who will hug you so tight that every little crack, every little broken piece, will seem new again… And one day you’ll wake up to see that what you thought was unfixable, actually is.

To those who think this doesn’t exist, you need to know it does. As the famous quote says “We accept the love we think we deserve.” And if we should ever succumb to thinking we deserve less than what is actually out there for us, than what is actually waiting for us to discover, then it will definitely be such a tragedy.

Love is supposed to be beautiful. It is supposed to be magical. And you should never ever forget that. Somewhere out there and somewhere in time, you will find a love so true, a love so beautiful, that will make you understand why you had to wait…and why you had to keep the faith.

I’m so glad I fought back and kept my heart intact and hope full.

“Someday your prince will come,” as fairy-tales always say and you should never ever believe otherwise.

You, my dear girl, deserve the fairy-tale of your life.

We all do.


4 Responses to “To All The Girls Who Thought of Giving up on Real And Beautiful Love”

  1. Joanna Cayanan November 18, 2014 at 6:31 am #

    Thanks for the reassurance. ‘Cause the grown-up me and the little girl me are having a tough fight inside me right now.haha

    • Jamie Fournier November 18, 2014 at 6:32 am #

      You’re welcome hun! Trust me, I know how you feel. We just have to keep reminding ourselves about what we truly deserve. It’s out there somewhere, if we let ourselves find it… And if we let time show us.;)

  2. Joanna Cayanan November 18, 2014 at 7:59 am #

    True! There are just some tough days that are hard to go through. But little by little, I am realizing what I really deserve, and the more I realize it, the more I’m convinced that I would have never found what I deserve with my last relationship. I’ll find it someday, somewhere. And I will definitely not rush it. thanks again! 🙂

    • Jamie Fournier November 18, 2014 at 8:01 am #

      Glad this helped as a reminder for you in one way or another. Every day I remind myself too. Stay happy my dear, take care 🙂

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